‘She had an affair because her husband neglected her’

Hi Njigirl,

I have been an admirer of your column, Couples Clinic. However, I do have some reservations regarding the advice in a past edition, which concerned a man that was said to have neglected his spouse. I found the advice to be too feministic.

Yes, the man neglected his spouse, which he acknowledged but that is not the passport for the infidelity committed by the wife. You concentrated on his negligence without bringing to the forefront the evil side of infidelity by his spouse. I do not think that sleeping out is the way to tackle spousal neglect.
You did not bother to find out if the couple had been having issues about the man’s frequent travels and if there had been avenues explored to address it to no avail before the woman went out to find pleasure in another man’s bosom while…